Comforting Thought: The dancers are free

When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what each of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life,Continue reading “Comforting Thought: The dancers are free”

Comforting Thought: Anxiety is a doorway

Carl Jung said that if you find the psychic wound in an individual or a people, there you also find their path to consciousness. For it is in the healing of our psychic wounds that we come to know ourselves…In the evolution of consciousness, our greatest problem is always our richest opportunity. ~ Robert Johnson

Comforting Thought: The seat at the head of your table

Self-actualisation is not a sudden happening, or even a permanent result of long-effort. The eleventh-century Tibetan Buddhist poet-saint Milarepa suggested: “Do not expect full realisation, simply practice every day of your life”. A healthy person is not perfect but perfectible, not a done deal but a work in progress. Staying healthy requires discipline, work, andContinue reading “Comforting Thought: The seat at the head of your table”

Comforting Thought: We pretend we aren’t vulnerable, but this is an illusion

We pretend we aren’t vulnerable, but this is an illusion. We are incarnated in a delicate body, intertwined in the community of life. Our senses have evolved to be exquisitely tuned to the ever-changing world of pleasure and pain, sweet and sour, gain and loss.

Comforting Thought: Love is not ‘out there’ waiting for you

What my marriage taught me is that real love is only what you give. That’s all. Love is not ‘out there’, waiting for you. It is in you.

Comforting Thought: We are in a tight spot

Anxiety is not optional in life.. It’s a part of life. We come into life through anxiety. We look at it and we remember it and say to ourselves: We made it. We got through it. In fact, the worst anxieties and the worst tight spots in our life, often, years later, when we lookContinue reading “Comforting Thought: We are in a tight spot”

Book Review: Standing At the Edge: Finding Freedom Where Fear and Courage Meet by Joan Halifax @jhalifax

Standing At the Edge is a once in a lifetime kind of book. I don’t say that lightly either. It’s a life-changing and life-affirming book that combines philosophy, Zen Buddhism, psychology, and much more and manages to be both personal and relevant for individuals as well as being vastly relevant to the entire human race.Continue reading “Book Review: Standing At the Edge: Finding Freedom Where Fear and Courage Meet by Joan Halifax @jhalifax”

Comforting Thought: The three forms of respect @jhalifax

Respect for others “When we respect someone, we understand our interconnectedness with them. My friends in Nepal ritualise mutual respect and interconnectedness by putting their hands together and bowing to each other while saying ‘Namaste’, which means ‘ I bow to the divine within you’. This is an expression of the interconnectedness of self andContinue reading “Comforting Thought: The three forms of respect @jhalifax”

Comforting Thought: Shyness is your friend

Shyness is the exquisite and vulnerable frontier between what we think is possible and what we deserve. Without shyness it is not possible to understand the new. Total confidence in a new phase of life means that we are misinformed and mistaken – about what is going to happen and what we are about toContinue reading “Comforting Thought: Shyness is your friend”

Comforting Thought: Loneliness is a doorway to belonging

Loneliness is a place from which we pay real attention to the voices other than our own. Being alone allows us to find the healing power in the other. The shortest line of an email can heal, embolden, welcome home and enliven the most isolated identity. Lonely human beings are lonely because they are madeContinue reading “Comforting Thought: Loneliness is a doorway to belonging”