Comforting Thought: We are in a tight spot

Anxiety is not optional in life.. It’s a part of life. We come into life through anxiety. We look at it and we remember it and say to ourselves: We made it. We got through it. In fact, the worst anxieties and the worst tight spots in our life, often, years later, when we lookContinue reading “Comforting Thought: We are in a tight spot”

Comforting Thought: Shyness is your friend

Shyness is the exquisite and vulnerable frontier between what we think is possible and what we deserve. Without shyness it is not possible to understand the new. Total confidence in a new phase of life means that we are misinformed and mistaken – about what is going to happen and what we are about toContinue reading “Comforting Thought: Shyness is your friend”

Comforting Thought: The Five Precepts of Buddhism @jhalifax

“When I am not clear what road to take, I might ask myself: ‘What would Buddha do?’ This is not to ask the impossible of myself. Rather, it is a reminder that the seeds of freedom are already in me. My vows water those seeds, and this seemingly innocent question has helped me to avoidContinue reading “Comforting Thought: The Five Precepts of Buddhism @jhalifax”

Book Review: Two Sisters: Unsolicited Advice to my Daughters by Małgorzata ‘Googie’ McCabe

A beautiful compendium of universal wisdom that’s simple, wise, soulful and timeless. I fell in love with this book as soon as I saw it. The illustrations and words are by my wise and kind friend Googie McCabe who wrote this book for her two beloved daughters, as a way of healing and dealing withContinue reading “Book Review: Two Sisters: Unsolicited Advice to my Daughters by Małgorzata ‘Googie’ McCabe”

Comforting Thought: Some teachers walk on two legs, others on four or more.

“I am still learning how to be a good creature. Though I try earnestly, I often fail. But I am having a great life trying – a life exploring this sweet green world – and returning to a world where I am blessed with a multispecies family offering me comfort and joy. “I wish IContinue reading “Comforting Thought: Some teachers walk on two legs, others on four or more.”

Comforting Thought: The pursuit of our ‘true feelings’ infantilises us

Or to put it more bluntly and less delicately – Fuck your feelings! At least that’s the general idea that I extracted from this quote by Danish philosopher and psychologist Svend Brinkmann. “There is nothing about feelings in themselves that means we must trust them – let alone express them. In an ever-changing cultural situation,Continue reading “Comforting Thought: The pursuit of our ‘true feelings’ infantilises us”

Comforting Thought: ‘Being yourself’ has no intrinsic value whatsoever

It is without a doubt better to be an inauthentic Mother Theresa than to be an authentic Anders Breivik. Indeed, being yourself has no intrinsic value whatsoever. “On the other hand, what does have intrinsic value is fulfilling your obligations to the people around you, with whom you are connected (i.e. doing your duty). WhetherContinue reading “Comforting Thought: ‘Being yourself’ has no intrinsic value whatsoever”

Emotional First Aid Kit #1

Sometimes the world just wants to break you with all of its chaos. Right now my family is in the eye of the storm, with one of our own absolutely determined to destroy himself with alcohol. Nobody knows what to do and so we are just paddling water at the moment, trying to stay afloat.Continue reading “Emotional First Aid Kit #1”

Comforting Thought: In adversity, we show our true colours

“If you want to get an idea of a friend’s temperament, ethics, and personal elegance, you need to look at him under the tests of severe circumstances, not under the regular rosy glow of daily life.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, The Black Swan: The Impact of the Highly Improbable

Comforting Thought: James Baldwin on why art is important

If you can examine and face your life, you can discover the terms with which you are connected to other lives, and they can discover them too – the terms with which they are connected to other people. This has happened to every one of us, I’m sure. You read something which you thought onlyContinue reading “Comforting Thought: James Baldwin on why art is important”