Comforting Thought: ‘Being yourself’ has no intrinsic value whatsoever

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It is without a doubt better to be an inauthentic Mother Theresa than to be an authentic Anders Breivik. Indeed, being yourself has no intrinsic value whatsoever.

“On the other hand, what does have intrinsic value is fulfilling your obligations to the people around you, with whom you are connected (i.e. doing your duty). Whether you ‘are yourself’ while doing so is essentially meaningless.

“Often the quest to find the self will lead others to being sacrificed along the way. This makes it impossible to fulfil your duties and obligations to others properly. I would argue that it’s better to be in doubt about whether or not you have found yourself.”

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“The elusive self is impossible to pin down and gut feelings are always unreliable, this very doubt of your gut feelings is a virtue in itself.”

~Svend Brinkmann

From: Standing Firm: Resisting The Self Improvement Craze by Svend Brinkmann

Svend Brinkmann

Svend Brinkmann is a Danish Professor of Psychology in the Department of Communication and Psychology at Aalborg University, Denmark. He serves as a co-director of the Centre for Qualitative Studies. He is the author of ‘The Joy of Missing Out’ and ‘Stand Firm.’

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4 thoughts on “Comforting Thought: ‘Being yourself’ has no intrinsic value whatsoever

    1. Thank you my friend I’m so glad this thought resonated with you. I think you would enjoy that book, where it came from, a lot of great wisdom is a slim and concise volume. I’m doing really well, I hope you are too. Hugs 🤗

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