To forgive is to assume a larger identity than the person who was first hurt, to mature and bring to fruition an identity that can put its arm not only around the afflicted one within, but also around the memories we carry of the searing emotional blow.
We imagine ourselves in the light of our maturity. We reimagine the past in the light of our new identity. We allow ourselves to be gifted by a story that first hurt us and left us bereft.
David Whyte
Snow along a lonely stretch of coast of Tottori prefecture, Japan 
Along the pathway at the top of the mountain near Glendalough Copyright Content Catnip 2008 
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From: Consolations: The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words by David Whyte
Genre: Non-fiction, Spirituality, Philosophy
Rating: 3.5 stars
*Contains no spoilers
In this slim and elegant volume of philosophy and inspiration, writer David Whyte tackles the big topics and words that rarely get any airtime in our society, the kinds of things that haunt people but that are difficult to resolve and so are pushed under the rug. Read full review
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Forgiveness is overblown. We should REMEMBER the slights against us, unless it interferes with restoring a normal relationship with a person. The only time we should “forgive” is when we have to deal with the same person again and again and it was a SMALL matter. Only then.
— Catxman
http://www.catxman.wordpress.com
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Up to you. However holding grudges and remaining angry has more of a toll on your own mental health and physical health, so to forgive is to heal yourself in a way.
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